Betrothal Gifts(彩礼):

In Chinese, it is pronounced as: cǎi lǐ，Written as:

Betrothal Gifts are an important part of traditional Chinese marriage customs. They involve the groom’s family presenting money or gifts to the bride’s family before the wedding. This custom varies in form and amount across different regions of China. Although the practice of giving Betrothal Gifts is not encouraged legally, it is not prohibited either.

The history of Betrothal Gifts dates back to ancient times. In ancient society, marriage was not only a union between two young people but also a merger of two families. Betrothal Gifts served as a symbol, indicating the groom’s family’s ability to handle economic responsibilities after marriage and showing respect and gratitude towards the bride’s family.

The forms of Betrothal Gifts are diverse, ranging from cash, gold and silver jewelry, property, and vehicles, to traditional items like silk fabrics, grains, and livestock. In some places, Betrothal Gifts also include symbolic items such as peanuts, red dates, and lotus seeds, which are meant to symbolize the wish for early and multiple childbirths, and a prosperous family.

The amount of Betrothal Gifts varies depending on the region, the economic status of the family, and local customs. In economically developed areas, the amount may be higher, whereas in less developed areas, it tends to be lower. In recent years, as the economy has grown and the urban-rural divide has narrowed, the amount of Betrothal Gifts has increased in some places, even sparking social debate and controversy.

Modern society has diverse views on Betrothal Gifts. On one hand, as a traditional custom, it is still respected and followed in many places. On the other hand, with the advancement of social concepts and the elevation of women’s status, more people are beginning to question the Betrothal Gift system, viewing it as a potential source of unnecessary economic pressure and possibly affecting the stability of marriages.

Some young people and families choose to receive fewer or no Betrothal Gifts, emphasizing equality and autonomy in marriage. They believe that the foundation of marriage should be love and mutual understanding, rather than economic conditions.