“CPU you” is an internet slang term that refers to applying linguistic techniques and psychological manipulation to exert pressure, undermine someone’s confidence, and cause their mental defenses to collapse, leading them to constantly doubt and deny themselves. This term originated when actress Xu Di was asked in an interview, “What should you do when your boyfriend says you aren’t good-looking?” She replied, “Don’t listen to him; he’s CPUing you.” In fact, what Xu Di intended to convey was that you were being subjected to PUA (Pick-up Artist), but accidentally referred to it as “CPU.”
The expression “CPU you” initially stemmed from “PUA,” which refers to individuals who use various techniques and strategies to attract the opposite sex or facilitate social interactions. However, when this term evolved into “CPU you,” its meaning shifted to refer to manipulating someone’s thoughts and behaviors through psychological control, ultimately causing them to lose confidence and judgment.
CPUing someone is not just about brainwashing; it’s a form of psychological control. By employing seemingly logical arguments and rhetoric, the other person is unwittingly influenced until the ultimate goal of control is achieved. Originally, PUA described techniques for attraction and interaction, but it has since been expanded to denote verbal and behavioral tactics that undermine the other person’s confidence and judgment.
The expression “CPU you” has spread widely online and is commonly used to describe behaviors that manipulate others through suppression and control across various relationships, including professional, romantic, and among friends and family.
For example, in the workplace, a superior may control subordinates’ actions and thoughts through criticism and repression. In romantic relationships, one partner may use words and actions to dominate the other’s thoughts and behaviors. Within friendships and family ties, psychological tactics are employed to influence decisions and judgments.